The conversion of parents who do not believe is possible! In this post, we will present you 5 powerful concrete actions and practices that will impact your family and bring your parents to God!
Dear young one, in the previous text we talk about “8 Gaps for you to close in the relationship with your family”. In this text will talk about “5 concrete actions for the conversion of your parents”!
Through these practical steps you will be able to be an overcomer even if your parents do not meet. Moreover, these concrete actions will allow you to have a impacting testimony, up to the point of generating the conversion of your parents (if they do not believe in God).
Action # 1 – Honoring your parents
Even if your parents do not believe in God or meet, obeying and honoring is a biblical principle that must be followed. In the post “Family: 3 essential attitudes for you to become an overcomer child” was presented the verse that says:
“Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord. ” (Colossians 3:20)
This verse shows that obedience is to be grateful to the Lord and that it does not come from us but from God. Obeying comes from God. In addition to obey, we must also honor. Honoring also comes from God.
Obeying and honoring are different things. When we obey, we do just what we were commanded to do, however, when we honor, we do more than just what we were commanded to do and it is made of heart.
Luke 17:10 says:
“So likewise you, when you have done all those things which you are commanded, say, ‘We are unprofitable servants. We have done what was our duty to do.”
Therefore, as important as doing what we were commanded to do, is to do it of heart and do more than our parents expect. This will surprise them and make them wonder why their kids are so willing to honor them. Over time, will be clear that God is within you providing strength to honor your parents.
Rather than obey, if you want the conversion of your parents, honor and go beyond what they command you and the duties they ask. If they ask for good grades, become the best of your classroom. If they ask for a tidy bed, give them a tidy room. If they ask for washed dishes, give them a clean kitchen. This concrete action will be a powerful testimony of God’s life in you.
For the conversion of your parents remember the Concrete Action #1:
Go beyond obeying – honor and go beyond what they command you and the duties they ask.
Action # 2 – Act wisely before the obstacles
When the parents do not meet or do not believe in the Lord, there is one more barrier to break to get them to go to the meetings.
In some cases, your mother finds many activities at home for you to do during the meetings. Or a father, who does not talk to you so much, suddenly decides to talk to you when the meeting is starting so you can’t leave. Or, at worst, your parents blatantly don’t allow you to go to the meetings, read the Bible or sing Christian hymns.
In these situations, what do we do?
When our parents are our obstacle, acting wisely involves recognizing their authority and its limits. This means that it is important to know that your parents are the authority over your life and that God is the authority over the lives of your parents (even if they do not believe in God). Ephesians 6:1-4 teaches what is this wisdom:
“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” which is the first commandment with promise:”that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.” And you, fathers, do not provoke your to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.”
Regarding the first highlighted sentence, some versions, such as the Catholic version, say that the children should obey their parents according to the Lord. In other words, when the parents give orders according to what God teaches, then children should obey.
Interpreting the biblical text (Ephesians 6:1-4), we see that the children here are obeying their parents because they are grown under discipline and Christian teachings. So, when we obey our parents, we are obeying God.
See, the ideal situation is to obey God and also our parents. When this is not possible and there are two different orders, the best is to obey the higher authority: God. That’s why, when there is a conflict between God and our parents, we must turn to God and obey Him.
This is a situation that requires a lot of wisdom. You must watch yourself not to act on impulse and do your own will. It is important to seek the peace that comes from God’s Spirit in us to know how to act. Moreover, it is always important to consult those who have more experiences of life with the Lord, the older brothers. This is to act wisely.
If you can not distinguish what decision you should take and you have no peace, you should pray for your parents, in order to change their thoughts, decisions and orders. Jeremiah 29:12-14 encourages us about it:
“Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. I will be found by you, says the Lord, and I will bring you back from your captivity.”
As we call on the Lord’s name and pray, He will take care of us in all things. If God wants, He can rescue our parents, leading them to His presence. God can change their opposite positions and put down every obstacle. We exercise our confidence and perseverance in God praying for our parents ceaselessly! Remember young one, prayers are like arrows.
Acting wisely transmits to your parents a maturity that comes from God’s life, after all, the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge (Proverbs 1:7). So when you act wisely, the life of God being expressed and your parents can see God in it. Result: the conversion of your parents is closer!
Concrete Action # 2:
Acting wisely before the obstacles means to follow the Word, seek the guidance of the Spirit and the counsel of the older brothers when your parent’s order and the Lord’s order enter in conflict. If you have difficulty to discern whether there is peace or not, pray to God to change your thoughts, decisions and orders.
Action # 3 – Decide firmly to remain sanctified and to become stronger
When our parents do not meet with the saints we tend to move away from the Lord and, sometimes, to experience bad things the world offers us. We must remain firm, even when the situations are contrary.
We can find “contamination” even within our own home and if we do not have committed Christian firmly. We will be contaminated, despising our youth. By choosing the world, we lose the time we could be spending with the Lord.
So we must be firm and truly decide for God, like Daniel, who decided firmly not to defile himself with the king’s delicacies (Daniel 1:8). Just as Daniel took his position by the Lord, we should also decide firmly for Him, not defiling ourselves with this world that affect both our spiritual and the physical side.
When we decide by the Lord, we become different from those who choose the king’s delicacies. We become strong in Christ (Daniel 1:15).
How do I do to get away from the things of the world, the attractions that are within my home?
Ah… Remember your bedroom!
Enter your bedroom and start enjoying Christ and His presence. Praise Him, pray and read the Word of God. This will be your salvation and the salvation of all your family! Your bedroom is your place of prayer, the environment in which you are free to contact God.
What if I can’t stay in my room?
If there is something that prevents you from staying in your bedroom, tell your parents that you will visit a brother who lives next to you and enjoy the Lord with him!
Your friends are empowering relationships that lead you to Christ, which help you to overcome and cooperate interceding for the conversion of your parents.
Having your time of praise, prayer and reading at home shows that you love God. In addition it helps you to become one who overcomes at home, it can also help in the conversion of your parents.
Concrete Action # 3:
Decide firmly to remain sanctified and to become stronger spiritually is something possible and that depends on seeking God, what can be done alone in your room or outside, with friends.
Action # 4 – To express the love of God
Something very special that makes lots of difference in our family is to be kind with our parents, which is part of our gratitude to them and also brings us happiness. Another thing that expresses the love of God is the dialogue. To talk is very important. It is possible to get closer to our parents through these small actions.
Young one, if you are away from your parents, a way to get closer to them is through love and dialogue. Hugs, kisses, handshakes, all this show affection. Conversations about the day at work, the economy, desires, problems, family, all this is dialogue. Start practicing today! This is indescribable and indispensable!
These are ways to express love and God is love (1 John 4:8). Express the love of God through love and dialogue and a door will open for the conversion of your parents. During the conversations an opportunity can arise to share an experience, and then, gain the hearts of your parents.
By acting with love, you will be dispensing God into your home and your family. It is worth!
Concrete Action # 4.
Express the love of God through love and dialogue and a door will open for the conversion of your parents.
Action # 5 – Valuing your parents
Young one, our parents were given by the Lord. The fact that they do not congregate with you or do not believe in God does not change that.
We often hear that we only acknowledge the value of people when we lose them. This does not need to be true in our lives, we can value our parents while we have them!
Living with our parents causes us accustom to them and, consequently, forget to hug, kiss and tell them:
* “I love you!”;
* “Father, you are important to me!”;
* “Mother, you are wonderful!”;
* “You are beautiful.”
It may not seem, but words and actions like these go deep into the hearts of our parents and return to us in a very sweet way! It’s like a seed: immediate results do not appear, but the growth is achieved gradually. Day by day we will see the difference at home!
Our Lord is extremely pleasant! We prove that love towards us every single day. Many times we do not correspond to this great love, but He still loves us in a unique way. Before this unchanging love, we are constrained and driven to love him without resistance. The Lord’s love is encouraging!
Similarly, the love of our parents is encouraging. Reciprocate and invest in it will bring an abundant harvest in the future.
We are privileged to be able to love our parents. May we day by day, remember to demonstrate our love towards them. Thus, our actions will gain our parents to Christ, defeating, this way, the enemy of God!
Value your parents while you are with them. This will mark each moment as unique and will make your parents feel they are special. We value people who give us value. Consequently, your parents will give you value and will begin to give importance to what you say. Your preaching of the gospel will be much more effective!
Valuing your parents cause your parents to value you and your words. So when you talk about God, the door will be open for the gospel to reach them! Value your parents.
Concrete Action # 5:
Value your parents and they will value you and your words. Thus, your preaching of the gospel will be much more effective!
Young one, if your parents do not meet or do not believe in God, this is not a reason to murmur, leave God’s presence and lose the blessing.
Actually, this is an opportunity!
It is the opportunity of the conversion of your parents!
The conversion of parents may occur. Simply put into practice the concrete actions shown in this post and this will ensure you an excellent start. Wait and trust!
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13).
Finally, the review of the #5 Concrete Actions:
1. Honoring the parents. More than to obey, honor and go beyond what they command you and the duties they ask.
2. Acting wisely before the obstacles means to follow the Word, seek the guidance of the Spirit and the counsel of the older brothers when your parent’s order and the Lord’s order enter in conflict. If you have difficulty to discern whether there is peace or not, pray to God to change your thoughts, decisions and orders.
3. Decide firmly to remain sanctified and to become stronger spiritually is something possible and that depends on seeking God, what can be done alone in your room or outside, with friends.
4. Express the love of God through love and dialogue and a door will open for the conversion of your parents.
5. Value your parents and they will value you and your words. Thus, your preaching of the gospel will be much more effective!
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Author: Débora Moreno
Translation of the article “5 Ações Concretas para a Conversão dos Pais – Série “Vida Social” (7) (Blog “Eu Vos Escrevi”)