A desire to date: have you ever felt that? If so, I hope this text can help you understand it better. Before you read this, I would like you to know: this post is not a complete and definitive manual about this subject and how to deal with this.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you”. Well, people, I hope you’ve enjoyed our posts. Now we are in the second post of mine and the third of the series and we feel it’s good to talk a little bit about our experience in youth consecration.
Hey everyone! I’d like to tell you about my perspective of some things. First of all, let me introduce myself. I’m Sara, I live in Itaguara, in the state of Minas Gerais, Brazil. I’m here to tell a little something of my own practical and spiritual experience regarding relationships. I’ll start by saying that I didn’t care much about this marriage thing during my teenage years. I was more focused on that present moment than on the future. I’ve always been like that. I never liked showing my feelings so I’d bury them so deeply that I often wouldn’t be able to find them myself LOL.
I was always busy with my own things, like school, so romance didn’t occupy much space in my mind. Of course, like every girl, deep down inside there was this desire I had for company. A yearning to have someone to call mine. But, I’ve always been a bit different, even a little weird LOL. To me, this whole thing of getting caught up thinking about someone else was lame, and, in my opinion, it showed weakness.
Actually, I realize now as I look back, that was not what I truly thought: I guess I was trying to protect myself from suffering or something like that. But that’s another story. The important thing is, when I was 17 I went to a young people’s conference at Estancia Arvore da Vida, Brazil. There, I opened up my heart to love (Aww!). I’ll never forget it. After a whole lot of praying, I felt the Lord had planted in my heart a desire to form a family and this made me start praying for someone who would make me happy and fit into my plans. However, I failed to realize I was praying in a wrong way. I didn’t even know whether my plans were the same of the Lord’s so how could fit into plans that could not even happen? I believe, though, that even so the Lord was merciful and kept someone special waiting for me.
I’d like to make something clear. The time I spent not worrying about relationships was hidden blessing. Because it kept me from being hasty and looking for some guy here or another there. But, guys, the best “distraction” is to consecrate oneself to the Lord. You can surely dedicate time to your studies, for example, but don’t let anything in this world, even the apparently good things, strip you away from serving the Lord and doing His will. He’s what’s best. Always pray that the Lord would keep your hearts, mainly your feelings, because feelings are delicate and can hurt, leaving us with permanent scars if we make use of them out of time or in the wrong way.
Well, back to my story. I met my special someone when I was 18! He was my chosen one! But the details are for another day. Jesus is Lord! See ya!
Translation of the article Oração: o primeiro passo para um relacionamento abençoado – ela (2) (Blog Eu vos escrevi)
Well guys, I, Marcos Felipe, and Sara are very happy to be the first couple to share with you some of our experience in our relationship. We thought it would be better for both of us to share our own view of the facts individually, so here goes! In this first post, I would like to share with you about my time of prayer.
I have always known that marriage is something that is in God’s heart and I have prayed for it since I was 12 years old. Whaaat? 12 years old? That’s right! 12 years old. I didn’t pray for a specific person, but for the Lord to keep whoever she was until then.
During that time, feelings came and went, and to be honest, these feelings were very helpful, because they somehow saved me from the world and stopped me from turning away from God’s path and searching for worldly things. I always thought: “I will save myself for that person”.
When I turned 18 years old, I thought: “I think now is the time to find someone”. However, my time wasn’t the Lord’s, and therefore, I had some disappointments. Actually, there is no such thing as the ‘time to find someone’; we need to wait for the Lord to provide.
So for this, I kept myself from searching anything in the world, I lived the church life intensely, I went to all conferences I could, I did the GPPC.
Oh, the GPPC! One of the best times of my life! I was still very closed towards the matter of relationships, so I read the booklet “The Marriage of the Dreams of God”, which I highly recommend. After reading it, I was able to rest in the Lord. I was sure God had the best for me.
I sought the Lord even more, I gave myself to Him, I really enjoyed the GPPC, I had many experiences with the Lord, visited many churches in many cities. And, in one of those visits, there was a problem with our car, which forced us to sleep over in the house of a very dear sister, who later became my mother-in-law. That small car problem led me getting to know the most important person in my life. Do you want to know when everything began? Well, I’m not telling you until the next chapter.
See you in the next post!